Yup, some flaky physics here to put it mildly! How does all this mumbo-jumbo centre of gravity cross balancing point explain what happens if the gun is mounted on a lead-sled and there is no tipping etc going on?
Back on topic - simplistically, recoil is generally believed to be a combination of the pressure 'peak' (both the amplitude and wave length of the impulse has an effect), momentum and stock design.
So a faster-burning powder builds pressure faster (all else being equal) and creates a pressure curve with a higher peak/amplitude. Which equates to a sharper punch of recoil.
A low peak and long wave-length/frequency would be more a slow push and less of a punch.
On momentum, the greater the combination of mass (bullet plus gases) * velocity, the greater the equal and opposite reaction, aka recoil. The higher the mass of the gun, the lower the recoil velocity.
Then factor in stock design. And the inertia of the shooter (standing upright vs laying down prone).
On the argument of 416 RM versus Rigby, the RM is something like 60k psi using a faster powder, versus the Rigby at 48k psi using a slow powder. The Rigby will have a greater mass of gas blasting out the barrel due to the greater powder charge but that extra 20grains will be difficult to perceive.
I suspect that the identical mass gun and stock design plus the same bullet mass and velocity and the recoil difference between the two would be fairly small, maybe not even perceptible.
In which case you choose the Rigby. Which was the answer before the physics lesson started!
EDIT: I was busy with my essay while Mark and Grumulkin were replying - apologies for repeating some of their message.