Sorry PHIL I started my post earlier in the day and hadn't read yours yet, if I had read yours I would have commented on some of your points. I need to get to work now so I will just comment on recoil.
I have been working up loads for a CZ 550 in 375 H&H at the same time as my new RUM. Math says that the RUM has to have more recoil and after several shots my shoulder can tell the difference and the RUM has some more blast, some of this would be due to the shorter barrel. The stocks on my RUMs may fit me better but for just a few shots I would rather shoot my RUMs. as a mater of fact my new rifle has a MPI lite Wby. style stock that I shortened to 13" LOP this is the lightest of the three guns and the one that is most comfortable to shoot. Any way like I said it may be the stocks but the recoil of the RUM seems so fast and strait back that it is over before you know it. The H&H seem to come up much farther and shove me back more. I guess this follows as the bullet is in the barrel longer. Like I said after several shots with the RUM from field position your shoulder can feel it, off the bench I use the led sled, but I only shoot 1-6 shots at a time from field positions at a time. As I live in the country I do this most days and some times more then once.
I would put the feel of the kick of the RUM in the same area as a 300 Win, they can bite as they are usually lighter, 375 H&H, or 12 ga. with heave field loads, less than my Rigby (I have it loaded to 2750 so it recoils more then the standard 2400), and I think more pleasant then 12 ga. with heave slugs. I think it feels less than a 300 Wby. that I used to have and more than a 7mm Mag.